Q: Why am I still single?

A few years ago, one of the church mothers took me by the hands and said, “Baby, befo’ God sends you the real one, the devil gone send you an impostor.”  Then she prayed with me.  I must say that when we parted ways, I left puzzled, wondering to myself who in the world she could be talking about.  At the time, I wasn't interested in anyone and as far as I knew, no one was interested in me.  Lo and behold, a year later, a guy asked me to be in a relationship with him.  On the surface, he seemed like a decent gent.  However, in getting to know him, I found that our personalities clashed.  He was extremely bossy and male chauvinistic- definite deal breakers! (I won’t take this blog post as an opportunity to bash him, because I still think he is a good guy, just not for me.)

I say all that to say, if I wanted to be in a relationship, I could be…but at what price?  He already showed me who he was, so why would I want to sacrifice being happily single just to say “I gotta man?!” *said like the girl from the Positive K video, lol* In all seriousness, one could imagine that being in a relationship with him would only exacerbate the situation and result in me being unhappy, annoyed and full of regret all in the name of being “wifed up”.  Frankly, hooking up with someone is the easy part but being in a healthy relationship is much better - and worth waiting for. 

Most often people equate being single with being lonely and that is so far from the truth.  Since I have found my purpose, being single is satisfying.  When the right person comes along - and he will- I'll know and be willing to share my fabulous life with him! *insert smile*  It's all in God’s timing.  Right now, I am joyously pursuing my dreams so my future husband will find me working - not pining over him.  When God sees fit, our paths will cross.  #dontbelievemejustwatch

Up Next!

Picture this…you’re in a crowded supermarket.  All of the lines are long and yet you only have 2 small items.  Depending on your mood, you may get a little annoyed because you had planned on getting in and out of the grocery store.  Then you come to a resolve and say “I might as well wait” because truth of the matter is, your time is coming!  You are next in line!  Knowing which line isn’t as important as your attitude while you are waiting.

I recently read a blog post by plus model Christina Mendez entitled “Model Dry Spell”.  In the article, she talked about perfecting your craft – taking classes, updating your comp cards, etc- while waiting for your next gig.  In her case, she is known in the plus model world but the advice she gave was practical.  Moreover, it reminded me of the importance of timing in regards to blessings that you haven’t received but are yet waiting for.  I am still waiting on my big break but instead of becoming impatient, I rejoice in this time of preparation.  

To my readers, I encourage you to do the same.   Take a minute and ask yourself these questions:

Are you getting yourself prepared for your big break?  If yes, how? 

Are you actively working and researching? 

Like you, I have a bunch of ideas in my head and I ask God each day for direction.   Moreover, don't mistake your season of waiting as wasted time.  Family, this is just the beginning and I keep telling myself that I'm on the verge of something great…but like all great things, it takes time to achieve but the good news is that I am…willing…to…WAIT!!!!!!   *huge smile*